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How to effectively manage time and reduce stress at work, especially when tasks pile up and deadlines overlap? Any tips or strategies that have worked for you?
How to effectively manage time and reduce stress at work, especially when tasks pile up and deadlines overlap? Any tips or strategies that have worked for you?
Hello! I really appreciate raising this concern. Managing time especially with multiple tasks could be very overwhelming. I recommend practicing: 1. Task prioritization - Eizenhower matrix in order to categorize your tasks based on (a) Urgent and Important (meetings/tasks with shorter deadlines, etc), (b) Important but not Urgent (tasks that need to be completed today but can be scheduled for later), (c) Urgent but not important (Can be delegated to someone else or some other time), (d) Not urgent and Not important (List them down and forget! Eliminate from today's routine to have better clarity) 2. 2 Minute rule: Complete all the small tasks that take just 2 minutes or even less. 3. Avoid Multitasking: Focus on one thing at a time and try following Pomodoro technique in order to reduce boredom and stress while completing the task on time. 4. Take appropriate breaks and practice mindfulness/interest based activities for refreshing your mind.
Feeling uneasy since a few days. Feeling uncomfortable while sleeping, relaxing or even sitting ideal. What can be done?
Hello! Thank you for sharing how you feel currently. I completely understand this must be very uncomfortable. Before working on the solution, we first need to understand and identify as to what is the reason behind this feeling. I reccomend practicing Guided body scan meditation or Guided Progressive muscle relaxation first in order to remove any kind of physical tension and clear the mind. Then start with reflecting upon last 15-30 days and list the factors/situations that might have been distrubing and difficult for you. After the identification of these stressors, you will be able to figure out what exactly is the problem and we can work on that or take professional help accordingly. Meanwhile, try practicing 54321 grounding technique, movement based/physical exercises for better engagement and activity, sleep hygiene and take care of your diet and hydration.
Hi. I'm not able to focus on my work and my productivity level has decreased significantly. I'm not able to manage my work-life balance. Please suggest to me what should I do?
Focus on your sleeping routine and practice sleep hygiene (proper night care rotuine at least 30 minutes before going to bed). It will help you to unwind your mind, feel refreshed and be more productive ultimately. Finally, take a vacation/trip outside, hang out with friends and family often and add some interest based activities in your day to day routine.
Hello! Thank you for sharing. In order to improve the work-life balance and productivity, we first need to identify the factors responsible for the same. After that, we need to focus upon mental freshness in order to rejuvinate yourself. You can try to list down factors/stressors that might be affecting you from last 3-4 weeks, at workplace, in personal life or related to friends and family. You can also try journaling where you can simply note down your thoughts related to points such as: "What are thre signs that tell you are out of balance?' or "What do I feel is missing currently in my life?" Try engaging yourself into mindfulness based activities such as Progressive Muscle Relaxation/Guided body scan meditation for engaging your senses and focusing on relaxation. Practice Box breathing every morning and before sleeping (3-5 times). Indulge yourself into physical activities and exercises like Mindful walking, mindful movement, yoga, exercises etc.
I'm stressed and worried about future. Not even sure what I am doing. Just wasting my time
I understand how you feel. It gets really tough when things become overwhelming or monotonous. It can result into feelings of stress, worry and irritation. Sometimes taking a step back and breaking things down into smaller, manageable parts can help here. 1) Practice mindfulness and relaxation based activities such as, body scan, deep breathing and guided meditation. 2) Practice self care: Night/morning care routine, listening to music, exercise, taking walks in the nature, etc. 3) Try to pinpoint the things.factors that might be causing you this pressure. 4) Prioritize and schedule those things accordingly so that it can give you more clarity. 5) Seek professional help/therapy in case you feel these feelings persist for more than a month or two.
I recently had a breakup and everything seems really weird to me since then! I feel sleepy throughout the day, being with people irritates me, I don't feel like doing anything and I feel like everybody hates me. They all just judge me. I feel like ev... See more
Hi, first of all thankyou for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to speak up on these things and you did it, amazing! As far as your question is concerned, yes this is absolutely normal. Getting separated from a persona you were attached with could be emotionally draining. Giving yourself some space and spending as much time as possible with self are the best ways to manage this feeling. 1. Practice self care: Get as much sleep as possible, eat what you like and try to listen to some good music of your choice. These things will help you relax and acknowledge your feelings. 2. Take a break for yourself: Practice body scan/meditation before sleeping, take a walk in the nature and try some other interest based activitites in order to boost your self-esteem. 3. Journaling: Note down your thoughts and feelings in order to help yourself express freely. 4. Practice positive Self talk.
yes, it is super normal to feel so after a breakup. Humans often ruin relationships with people who love them for people whom they love. I have gone through the same. U should work on yourself and take professional help.
I usually feel very distracted and not able to focus on work. I think I live in delusion and doesn't able to live upto anyone's expectation. what should I do?
Spend as much time as possible with yourself and keep repeating - 1. "I deserve this time for myself, as I do a lot of productive work." 2. "This is a small investment for my long-term success." 3. "I understand that balance is the key to a healthy ME." 4. "This self investment will give me a healthier and happier mind."
Hello, I completely understand what you must be feeling like. A few months back I was also in the same state. It felt like I had become numb and my mind was not able to process any information or engage in any kind of activities. In fact, I also lost interest in my day to day tasks and started feeling very overwhelmed and lost. Usually, this state of numbness can be a result of a burnout or may be too many tasks to focus at once! Practicing Mindfulness and taking out time for Self helps a lot in such cases. It will make you feel refreshed and lighter leading to an increased positivity and enhanced focus. Try to practice Body scan or Jacobson's Progressive Muscle relaxation technique (guided) it will help a lot in physically removing tension and opening up your senses. Also, try to go for a mindful walk, dancing and listening to some up beat music. Also, prepare a self-care routine for yourself, you can also take help from some self-care calendars and follow a weekly or monthly challeng
I am in a non-existent relationship with my husband. After trying hard for 19 years to have a bare minimum level of emotional intimacy, I have given up. We live together for the sake of kids. Otherwise we are just strangers, not even room mates who t... See more
First of all, thanks for reaching out. What you’re going through is not easy. The decision to only work on yourself is respected. What you can start with is: journaling, journal about the ideal state you want to reach, the better version of you and a plan to reach there. What are the micro habits you can choose. Second, body movement will help, becoming more mobile helps reduce overthinking & negative thoughts, you can probably start with a 10 mins walk each day it will help you gain clarity, kickstart well & change the environment and reduce triggers. You might have to push yourself more initially. Third, explore activities/ hobbies that may seem close to bringing happiness and start pursuing them, creativity helps in secreting positive hormones which will uplift your mood. Most importantly, connect with people. Socializing helps in feeling connected especially since your struggling with marital disconnect.
It took me a lot of courage to come up here and write my problems as I’m scared of being judged. I was always an overthinker but lately I’ve been experiencing something even more strange. Whenever I try to sleep, I close my eyes and they keep flu... See more
Hi. These could be signs of an overactive nervous system. An overactive nervous system is caused by chronic stress or anxiety, which can lead to the body's "fight or flight" response becoming constant. This can further lead to physical symptoms including overthinking, restlessness and inability to calm down. This is not a condition, but the root cause of many psychological disturbances including sleep disturbances. In layman’s language, your body & mind are overactive and find it difficult to calm down. Even when you try to rest, the body & mind does let you relax & rest.
For this you can first try to physically exert to tire the body. Your brain & body will naturally search for rest then, consider running, zumba, workout or gym for this. Next, you need to train your nervous system to relax at night, for that practice sleep hygiene, relaxation techniques like deep breathing, Progressive muscle relaxation. Simultaneously visit the right doctor to understand if it can be some other problem and get it treated.
I've been struggling with work. My boss is criticising and has no respect for the employees. Others around me are able to manage, but I get super triggered. My mind keeps replaying office scenarios all the time and I find myself anxious all the time.... See more
Hi. First of all, more power to you for having the strength to go through this everyday & seeking help. Its not easy to work in a high stress environment which leaves less space for self care. I would like to reflect on how you mentioned that others around you are able to manage with the stressful environment at work and would request you to analyze if you’re having problems with setting boundaries, especially personal & is there a possibility that you could be personalizing things to the level that you find it difficult to calm down and end up beating yourself up for all the mistakes you make or can make (which are assumptions as of now). This could be very harmful to your Mental health especially if it combines with lack of Self acceptance & Self forgiveness.
I think the first thing you can do is, practice self acceptance & self forgiveness by controlling the controllables & not the uncontrollables. Second, I could sense constant reflection on “what i could not do”, consciously reflecting on things that “I could do” will help improve your mental health & boost confidence to create resilience. Third, constant worries can eat up our present moment even if there’s no problem in the present, try to identify how many of your worries could be assumptions & try relaxation practices for nervous system regulation. Set boundaries in your workplace and be mindful of what thoughts are harming you. If this doesn't help, seeking therapy would be very beneficial
To whom is good for me as I am suffering from tinnitus and related anxiety and insomnia.
Hi. Struggling with tinnitus is difficult especially with the discomfort it brings along with anxiety & sleep related issues. It's best to consult a doctor, as there can be misinformation that can make the problem worse. Relaxation helps with Anxiety and insomia, you can try relaxation exercises as they have no side effects. These exercises include: Deep breathing: Taking a long deep breath in for th count of 5, holding the breath for the count of 5 and exhaling for the count of 5. Try to direct your focus on the breath repeatedly. Meditation Guided imagery/ visualization can help you bring the focus on relaxation from the ringing in ears Therapy can help you with the symptoms related to Anxiety and insomnia. It's best to get the mental health challenges diagnosed first, followed by the right treatment from the right professional. Take care!
I'm feeling like anxiety has become a part of my life. I am not able to remember the day when I did not feel anxious. Also, I have a very weird personality where at one point, I feel happy and then on the other moment, I fill myself with sadness. I'm... See more
Hi, A Mental health professional is the best person to make a diagnosis, you will get clarity upon whether it’s anxiety itself or something else and measures can be taken accordingly. Also, I have anxiety myself, and I too struggle with mood swings. Anxiety makes us have negative thoughts, paints the worst case scenarios and leads to extreme emotions because of these negative thoughts. Meditation and regulating my thoughts helped me, everytime I started having negative thoughts, instead of believing them I started analyzing how true they actually are, that helped me get to the gray area of life which helped me with my mood swings also. We can build these skills in therapy which is highly recommended to you. Therapy helps in building all the skills you mentioned, from regulating thoughts, overthinking & emotions, it helps in managing expectations and boundaries.
A few weeks ago, I saw my partner with some other woman at a restaurant. When I called him, he screamed at me and told me to not call him during his working hours. I have been observing very unusual behaviour lately. Later, I syped on his phone and r... See more
Hi. I can only imagine how it must be hurting you. Since you have mentioned, you know he is cheating on you, i'm hoping that you have enough concrete evidence. I can understand your condition however I would like to highlight that staying in the same situation and letting things be as they are wont help, rather cause more harm in the longer run. Acceptance is the first step in helping oneself. You can also choose therapy to help you in this difficult time, or if your partner would be open to work on the relationship, you can also consider couple therapy. Please know that you’re not alone and help is always around. Its okay to seek help especially when we’re not in the right place to make the right decisions.
Hello everyone I am not able to handle work pressure at my organisation. My manager always makes fun of me in front of whole team for having mediocre working style and looks down on me because I was not in favour of some of his decisions that he took... See more
Hey! You should try communicating your problems with your manager. It is important to communicate him that you are just doing your work and not interfering in his matters. Say sorry to him if it works. Apologising is not a sign of weakness or being inferior, it is just a tool to make peace with others. I'm sure, it will help you establishing a peaceful relationship with your manager :)
Hey guys. Do you guys slip up and curl into unhealthy stuff when you feel a little uncomfortable/uneasy. I do that a lot. And everytime there’s a conflict within me. I know I shouldn’t be doing it, but do it any way and feel super guilty and unwo... See more
I think what matters the most is how we speak to ourselves, because when we have a negative voice in our heads, we keep overly focussing on all the things that we aren’t doing, making us feel even more sad & guilty. You can try practicing gratitude, practices like “5 good things about my day” will help you focus on what you are doing and make you feel accomplished, breaking the cycle of feeling worthless. You can also practice socialising, practicing hobbies &focussing on your strengths. This will help you feel happier. Also, Slipping and curling in bed is not bad unless you’re doing this excessively. If there’s excess, try contacting a professional
Hey. I understand what you're going through and its not easy. First of all, let go of that guilt because whatever you are doing, you're trying your best. It gets super difficult when we feel guilty for letting down our parents but sometimes we forget that we are doing the best that we can right now.
Hi all, keep sharing your problems anonymously here. Let it all out of your system. Remember, consistency is key :)
Anything that human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable is always manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.
That is a beautiful thought. Thanks for sharing 🌸
Absolutely right
When studying I feel like I’m racing. That makes me less focused. That affects my attention and long term memory. When I not studying I feel guilty and wish to study, but then at time of studying eveything feels like a hodge-podge.I feel inefficien... See more
Break tasks into smaller chunks. Use time management techniques like the Pomodoro Technique. Practice mindfulness and relaxation and Seek support from a counselor or therapist if needed.
Hi. Thoughts racing & a distracted mind can be signs of hyperaroused nervous system which means you're mind & body are in a rush. Try practicing grounding technique of mindfulness (5.4.3.2.1 technique) a couple of times before sitting to study & you may also do deep breathing for 5 mins before studying to calm down the nervous system. Practice these for a week & notice the change, if you still face the same problem, visit a Psychologist.
Hi a 26yo female here. Idk where my issues started. I was happily studying medicine. Was in a relationship I cherished. Then all hell broke loose when my bf broke up for no reason. Soon he started dating my friend. The twin betrayal was unbearable to... See more
Practicing mindfulness can help you with the emotional burnout. But its important to get yourself rightly diagnosed as you already have the genetic predisposition towards depression & Adhd is a complex diagnosis, it has many symptoms that overlap with other psychological issues. Its best if you can first get the clarity & then proceed with the solution part
Hello. I understand that you're deeply exhausted and feeling disconnected too. It hurts when things are not working out our way. I could find certain patterns which are unhelpful & derogatory to your mental health such as: the constant comparison with others makes us view our life in a negative light constantly which not only contributes to the feeling of depression but also affects our self perception & confidence, you've been through a lot emotionally but it seems you also have been avoiding your difficult emotions it constantly by procrastinating (temporarily avoiding stress), binge watching & over-sleeping. Avoidance of negative emotions leads psycho-somatic problems which is another thing you have mentioned to be experiencing. Also, what I'm understanding is that the distress is not only happening from you life events but also your constant negative thoughts, comparison, avoidance are heavily contributing to the emotional burnout, anxiety & feelings of depression.
I hate my manager, he takes credit for all the work done by me and over exploits me. I feel burnt out. Get anxiety, left with no energy in my body. I am not able to think clearly.
Hi. The stress is real. We often find ourselves helpless when we have a passive or aggressive approach to others, where we're either not able to take our stand & voice up our concerns (passive) or we lash out & become rude (aggressive). Between these 2 extreme swings comes Assertiveness which is the best way to solve problems. you can read about it, also try setting healthy boundaries at work & voice your needs in an assertive manner.
Hey, if it is concerning you in such a extreme level, try to take some days off. We all feel overwhelmed by work somedays or the other! If it does not help, confront your manager about the problems that you are facing and if he/she does not make changes in their behaviour, look for another job or something that makes you feel good. HAPPY HEALING! :)
How to overcome Persistent sadness that lasts two weeks or more?
Firstly, it is important to acknowledge the root-cause for your persistent sadness. After that, you should adopt some solution-oriented approaches. For example, if your persistent sadness is the product of your friendship or relationship issues, you should set boundaries and focus more on what's in your control.
I have traumatic past terrible love life no friends and my siblings doesn’t respect me i am just an ATM for my family and papa, my mother is the only person who somewhere loves and now i found she doesn’t understand me infact bcz of my selfish fa... See more
hey, I have a problem you wouldn't think is normal, so to began with, I have 3 sisters (the last have been born 3 years ago) and 3 brothers , my problem is about my older sis who is 24y ,since we were little I don't remember her including me in anyth... See more
I have been a bright student since school and had to bear the burden of always being the top student in the class. Although I felt happy and accomplished on achieving that but on the back of my mind, it was always pressurizing from my parent's side t... See more
I messed up my exam four times, despite having thoroughly prepared for it. Also, it was not a failure but a redirection of my purpose. What helped me most was that- I tried to remind myself that I've already achieved so much, and it's okay to acknowledge my accomplishments. It might help to incorporate mindfulness techniques into your daily routine to stay focused on the present moment and reduce overthinking. Additionally, speaking to a mental health professional can provide valuable strategies to manage anxiety and gain a deeper understanding of your emotions.
I can empathize with the pressures you've faced throughout your academic journey and your current struggles with anxiety and overthinking. It's common to experience these feelings, especially when striving for excellence. While it's essential to have goals and aspirations, it's equally important to find balance and appreciate the present.
Iwas in relationship with my boyfriend since 2018 whilehe was with me every seeemms to be easy and happy ,until 2020 December, My routine is only talking tohim ,after that I was alone at home,and depressed , 2021 2022 anxiius and depressed and very... See more
Heyy I know that your music class and the friendship with your coach have brought some light into your life, but it's crucial not to place all your emotional well-being on a single relationship. Try to diversify your interests and connections, which can help create a more balanced and fulfilling life. Please remember that your life has tremendous value, and there is hope for a better tomorrow. These difficult emotions you're experiencing are temporary, and with the right support and strategies, you can overcome them. If you ever feel overwhelmed by thoughts of suicide, please reach out to a mental health professional, a trusted friend, or a helpline. There are people who genuinely care about your well-being and are ready to help you through this challenging time. You are not alone in this journey, and there is a path towards healing and happiness.
I want you to know that I genuinely empathize with the pain and challenges you've been enduring in your relationship and your mental health journey. It's not easy to go through such a prolonged period of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. I can imagine how exhausting and overwhelming it must be to feel like you're stuck in a routine that, on the surface, brings comfort but deep down leaves you feeling trapped. The truth is, your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek help and support. I've been there, and I understand how hard it is to break out of a routine that feels like a safe haven, even if it's not entirely healthy. Change can be terrifying, but it can also be the path to healing and a brighter future. It's essential to prioritize your mental well-being. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with the guidance and tools to address your depression and anxiety. They can work with you to help you find new ways to cope and navigate your emotions.
Hi ,I ways feel sad and heavy over chest don't know why ,
It's important to remember that these feelings can be overwhelming, but you don't have to face them alone. Reach out to friends or family members and let them know what you're going through. Sometimes, sharing your emotions with someone you trust can provide immediate relief. In addition, consider engaging in activities that can help lighten your mood, such as going for a walk, practicing mindfulness, or even just taking some time for yourself to relax and recharge. However, if these feelings persist or worsen, it's crucial to seek professional help. A mental health expert can provide you with the guidance and support needed to navigate these challenging emotions. Remember, you're not alone in this, and there are resources available to assist you in finding a path toward emotional well-being. Your well-being matters, and there is hope for brighter days ahead.
It's completely okay to have moments where we feel sad and heavy, even when we can't pinpoint the exact reason. If you ever want to talk or share what's on your mind, this community is here to listen and support you. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone.
Hi , There have been questions that I often ponder over related to value of a girl being a virgin during marriage. I have seen instances and read pathetic YouTube comments that call women a slut who lost their virginity before marriage and questio... See more
I admire your courage in sharing your thoughts on this sensitive topic. Your perspective highlights your empathy and open-mindedness. It's essential to challenge societal norms that can be limiting and harmful. My advice would be to continue advocating for change and be a voice for those who may not yet have the opportunity to express their feelings on this matter. By fostering conversations and spreading awareness, you're contributing to a more inclusive and understanding society. Keep being true to your values and beliefs, and remember that your outlook can inspire positive change in the world.
Embrace self-acceptance and remember that you are not defined by societal expectations or past experiences. Open, honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship, so discuss your values and boundaries with your partner. Educate yourself about healthy relationships and sexual health to make informed choices. If you ever feel overwhelmed by societal pressures or self-worth concerns, seek support from friends, family, or professionals who can provide guidance and understanding during challenging times. Remember that your well-being and happiness should always come first in any relationship or life decision.
Í don't have any friends ,I'm also hesitate type, just need one friend to share ,bt don't have ,feels broken and heavy , As I have anxiety problem ,I don't go to work ,I'm home alone all day What to do Need help
It's completely okay to feel the way you do. Loneliness and anxiety can be tough. One step you can take is to reach out to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance on managing these feelings. Another approach is to join online communities centered around your interests, where you can connect with like-minded people. Start small in building social connections, perhaps by engaging in brief online interactions. Consider volunteering for local organizations, as it's a great way to meet new people while also giving back to your community. Regular exercise, even just going for walks or practicing yoga at home, can help reduce anxiety and improve your mood. If anxiety is making it hard to go to work or carry out daily activities, seeking professional help is important. Remember to be kind to yourself during this journey and avoid self-criticism. You're not alone in facing these challenges, and there is support available.
Hello , I'm kartika 23 yrs old , completed BE CSE, upto 12 th I was with my parents and both physical and mental health is good, For engineering I went to another city ,I was with my mom's father and mother ,due to studies I got stress and having pa... See more
While you may not have friends nearby, you can stay connected with your supportive cousin or anyone else you trust, even if they’re not perfect. Sometimes, having someone to talk to can make a significant difference in how you feel. If possible, consider joining local clubs or social groups based on your interests. This can be a great way to meet new people who share your passions and make friends. You can also explore online forums and communities related to your hobbies or interests. Engaging in discussions online can be a way to connect with like-minded individuals and build friendships. Continue attending your music class, as it seems to be a positive outlet for you. Over time, you may naturally develop friendships with fellow musicians also Prioritize self-care activities, such as meditation, exercise, and maintaining a healthy diet. These can help improve your overall well-being.
It's not to late to build friends - you can join online communities, reading groups, yoga class, dance class, or any other art form. It can be a great getaway for you as well.
I agree, if you think your cousin is not someone you can confide in, have some faith in yourself and explore new possibilities of meeting new people. Pursue activities that can bring you like minded individuals. Give it another chance.
FIRST, I WOULD LIKE TO THANK A LOT TO MAKE A FREE WEBSITE WHERE I CAN SHARE MY PROBLEM AND THERE IS SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP ME AND ATLEAST LISTEN TO ME COZ THE SOLUTION ISN'T AVAILABLE TO MY PARENTS NEITHER MY FRIENDS NOR MYSELF IN THE PAST THERE WOULD... See more
I agree to the previous comment and want to add that you can consider involving a family counselor or therapist. They can provide a neutral and safe space where all parties can express themselves freely, and a professional can help facilitate constructive communication. Remember, it might take time, patience, and multiple conversations to bridge these gaps. But the willingness to address the issue is a positive step towards improving your relationship with your parents. Take care, and I hope things get better for you.
Hey, I appreciate that you took your first step. It's brave to seek help and try to bridge communication gaps. It's clear that you care deeply about your relationship with your parents and want to improve it. Firstly, know that you're not alone in facing challenges with family communication. It's not uncommon for generational differences and misunderstandings to arise. You've already taken the first step by reflecting on your feelings and situation. Understanding your own emotions and reactions can help you better communicate with your parents. Try to have an open and honest conversation with your parents. Express your feelings calmly and respectfully. Share your desire for a better relationship and your willingness to listen to their perspective. When you talk to your parents, make an effort to actively listen to their side of the story. Understand their concerns and reasons behind their actions. This can create empathy and a better understanding of each other.
how to get over past trauma
Here are some tips that you can follow to get over with your past trauma... by practising journaling, you can vent your feelings about past trauma out and feel better. Spend time with loved ones so that you can feel valued. Follow a self-care routine and engage yourself with some of your hobbies. I hope, you will feel better after practising these tips! Have a good time ahead :)
I am so unlucky in the matter of love , i lost my first relationship because of family and after that everyone use to come with intentions of making physical relationships only and last one was hilarious he literally manipulated me badly and fucked... See more
I can understand how challenging those experiences must have been for you. It's important to remember that you deserve love and respect in any relationship. While it's natural to feel hurt and cautious after going through difficult situations, please know that not everyone is the same. When you're ready, take the time to heal and focus on your own well-being. Trust your instincts, and don't settle for anything less than a healthy and meaningful connection. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and consider seeking professional guidance if needed. Remember, you're not defined by your past experiences, and there's hope for brighter days ahead.
I mostly feel like i have no one who can understand me, people says that they love me but they also keep saying that i am doing this to me…. But no one is able to understand that why would i do this, no i am not doing anything intentionally please try an understand and yes expert which expert where can i get these experts who can resolve my past traumas like people molested me , they called me untouchable and i used to have my school lunch alone so and so
My own family is toxic. I feel like I can't live in this home anymore....but I don't have any other option. They treated me very bad they still do.
Is there anyone with whom you can share this within your family?
Facing a toxic family situation is undeniably tough. Remember, you deserve to be in a safe and supportive environment. Seek out friends, mentors, or counselors who can offer guidance and a listening ear. You're not alone, and your strength can pave the way for positive changes. Reach out for professional help or resources if needed. Your well-being matters, and you deserve respect and kindness.
Hi...I'm going through anxiety issues from last 3 years....I don't know when I'll recover. I am not able to concentrate on my life. Always feeling lonely.
Hey, I wanted to suggest you a course that helped me overcome my anxiety, why don't you try it too, it helped me, it sure will help you. It's Riddhi Deora's Mindfulness Course available in the Mindtreats feature at Mindcafe.
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Hello My bestfriend name is anirudhda .We have 4 year of friendship..we are totally different with eachother.he is very calm,less impresive,less talk and I am always excited,full of energy, we are fall in love with each other from last 6 -7 mont... See more
Same problem ????
Hello Pooja, I know it hurts but most of the problems you're creating in your head by overthinking it. Have you tried communicating with him?
I am going through a lot of fears, fear of losing my friend who eventually became my loved one. He is my bestfriend since years and now i am in love with him, but he don’t have same feelings. So, now we are living in some distances. And, its b... See more
Unreciprocated love haunts us like nothing else, it is only valid that you're feeling a turmoil of emotions. I am sorry. The only thing that I can suggest you is that give it some time, maintain a little distance, allow yourself to heal. It'll take time but you'll find someone who loves you and reciprocate the feelings.
I had an very bad childhood and even marriage. One year before i met a guy who is loving me unconditional but my anxiety attack is spoiling my relation. When i was in India i was going through treatment but i stopped meditation when i moved to duba... See more
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing, but it's great that you're seeking help and looking for ways to improve your situation. Dealing with past trauma and anxiety can be tough, but there are steps you can take to work towards a healthier and happier life. Here are some pieces of advice: Prioritize self-care: Take care of your mental and emotional well-being. This includes seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to address the past trauma and anxiety. Therapy can provide you with coping strategies, tools, and support to deal with these issues effectively. Communicate openly with your partner: Share your feelings and struggles with your partner. Open communication is essential for understanding each other's perspectives and needs. Let him know that you appreciate his love and support, but you're actively working on improving your mental health. Reintroduce meditation and mindfulness: Consider resuming your meditation practice. Meditation and mindfulne
Hi. I m in a relationship with a married man from past 5 years and past 1 yr i m living in livein. I m not happy. It is deteriorating me very badly. Not able tk decide
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling unhappy and unsure about your current situation. Being in a relationship with a married man can be emotionally challenging and can lead to complex emotions. Here are some important considerations and advice to help you make a decision: Reflect on your feelings: Take some time to honestly assess your emotions and the reasons you got into this relationship in the first place. Consider whether your needs and desires are being fulfilled, or if you are sacrificing your happiness for the sake of the relationship. Consider the implications: Being in a relationship with a married man carries significant ethical and emotional consequences. It's essential to consider the impact it might have on his family and your emotional well-being in the long run. Value yourself: Remember that you deserve to be in a loving, fulfilling, and committed relationship where you are respected and treated well. Consider whether this relationship aligns with your values and lo
I am in 2nd year of my master’s degree and I feel that I am not at all confident. I fear speaking in public and as I never say no be rude, people have started making fun of me. I having really bad days. Not even able to study. And as I am stay... See more
Hey, I faced the same problem during my master's. I tried focusing on one thing at a time, I tried public speaking and made myself better at it, then I focused on saying no. People make fun of everyone who is different than them, but change is hard. You can do it. Focus on one step at a time
I just don't understand whats going on. I just go shut once in a while and keep thinking about everything that has happened wrong. I am unable to move ahead. Everything is stagnant. I am not doing anything productive. I am 22 and unable to clear my C... See more
It is okay to not feel productive when you are overwhelmed with too many emotions. I am sorry that terrible things have happened to you. CA is one of the toughest exams, I commend you for trying despite failing. You will get through this. Trust your timing. If not your family to fall back on maybe reach out to your closest friends and confide in them.
6 December 2019 the day when I came in to a relationship for the first time. I loved her alot, she was like my everything but unfortunately she broke up with me on 08/10/2020. It's been three years since I lost her and my life has completely changed ... See more
Bro, i was at your situation. Same to same. But then someone finally came in my life and I got all the happiness that I was so deprived of. Good things take time bro. Enjoy your life. Love yourself. When you love yourself and be confident, you will always attract the right people. Cheers
Death and suicide are not the solutions, it will cause more damage to people who truly love you.
I am really sorry to hear that. But before reaching out for love partners I would really suggest you to fix the issues that are culminating within you. If you do not fix those you'll end of messing up every relation of yours. Sit down with yourself and prioritize things, bring out the solutions that will fix things one by one. Try to bring your life back on track.
I am 32 years old and feel like m doing nothing productive in my life it looks like my days are going normally nothing is new I want learn new things get out of my comfort zone I need help
First of all, you should find your area of interest which would enhance your productivity then plan your day on the previous night and reserve 1-2 hours specifically for the activity of your interest. but don't be dishearten if the activities don't go as per plan as there will be fluctuations in your routine, so try to improve gradually. I hope it's gonna work.
How to overcome the fear of death or the fear of losing people? 1month ago I lost my uncle, after that im overthinking a lot... Cant sleep becuz of fear... Even my mother is too not well... Im feeling like my world is falling apart... Overthinking a... See more
I'm really sorry to hear about the loss of your uncle and the difficulties you and your mother are experiencing. Dealing with the fear of death and the loss of loved ones is a challenging and deeply personal process, but here are a few suggestions that may help you cope: Acknowledge your feelings: It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed, sad, and fearful after the loss of a loved one. Allow yourself to experience these emotions and understand that it's part of the grieving process. Talk to someone: Share your feelings with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. Talking about your fears and concerns can provide emotional support and help you process your thoughts. Additionally, speaking with your mother about her feelings may also bring you closer and offer mutual comfort. Seek professional help: Consider reaching out to a grief counselor or therapist who specializes in bereavement. They can provide guidance and offer coping strategies tailored to your specific situation.
I'm 22 year old guy, an aspiring club cricketer. I'm going through lots of depression right now, first reason is lots of debt on me. 2 years back i got my first credit card which i was using well but my poor habits of fooding and spending unnecessa... See more
It sounds like you're going through a lot right now and feeling overwhelmed. Here are some solutions that may help: Seek professional help: Consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings of depression, anxiety, and thoughts of suicide. They can also help you develop strategies to manage your debt and get your life back on track. Create a plan to pay off your debt: Talk to a financial advisor or credit counselor who can help you create a budget and a plan to pay off your debt. This may involve cutting back on unnecessary spending and finding ways to increase your income. Focus on your health: To prevent sports injuries and improve your mental health, focus on getting enough rest, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in physical activity that is appropriate for your injury. Talk to your girlfriend: Be honest with your girlfriend about what you're going through and how you're feeling. This can help you both work through any issues that may have ari
How to stop overthinking in a relationship ..?
Overthinking in a relationship can be detrimental to both you and your partner. It can cause unnecessary stress, anxiety, and tension, and can also lead to misunderstandings and conflict. Here are some tips to help you stop overthinking in a relationship: Identify your triggers: Try to identify the situations or thoughts that trigger your overthinking. This can help you be more aware of when it's happening and take steps to stop it. Focus on the present moment: Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, focus on the present moment. Pay attention to what's happening in your relationship right now, and try to enjoy the moment. Communicate with your partner: If you're feeling anxious or insecure, talk to your partner about your concerns. This can help clear up misunderstandings and reassure you that everything is okay. Take a break from social media: Social media can sometimes make you feel like you're not good enough or that your relationship isn't as good as other
5 months ago while returning from college, I met with an incident which took away all my happiness from my life. It was the worst nightmare I would have ever met.. I wasnt normal but in home I was acting to be.. Sleepless nights, Anxiety Attacks, Ove... See more
I am sorry to hear that you have gone through such a difficult time. It sounds like you have been dealing with a lot of trauma and emotional pain in a short period of time. It's important to remember that you are not alone, and it's okay to seek help and support from others. It may be helpful for you to speak to a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide you with coping strategies and tools to manage your anxiety and negative thoughts. They can also help you work through the emotions surrounding the incidents you experienced, as well as the feelings of worthlessness and burden you are experiencing. It's also important to practice self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or exercising. Taking care of your physical health can also positively impact your mental health. Remember, healing is a process and it takes time. Don't be too hard on yourself, and try to focus
I am an anxious person. I feel like I make mistakes at every turn in my life. Or just get hit by a barrage of bad luck. I have been depressed and suicidal lately due to various reasons. Not even have the energy. I recently made a huge mistake though.... See more
I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling anxious and struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts lately. It's important to take care of yourself and seek support during this time. It's understandable that you're feeling guilty and upset about crossing your friend's boundary, and it's commendable that you apologized to her. Moving forward, it's important to respect her boundaries and be mindful of how your words and actions can impact others, especially in sensitive areas. It's possible that your friendship can recover, but it will take time and effort to rebuild trust. In the meantime, try to focus on taking care of yourself and working on your own personal growth. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your anxiety and depression, and provide guidance on how to navigate challenging situations in your relationships. Remember, you are worthy and deserving of love and support, and there is help available if you need it.
I was working in China for last 13 years and I can read, write and speak Chinese. But once I came back to India in 2020. Since covid I have not been stable done lots of course but can't complete it money already gone but I cannot accomplish a... See more
Chinese is one of the highest paid language in the world right now, why don't you use that and build your career around it?
Covid has been a turning point for enormous number of people and I am sorry you had to go through all of this too, I just wanted you to know that if you set your mind to it and believe, you can overcome this.
For someone who shifted to another country for work, tried to make a living, adjusted with all the cultural barriers, you have come a long way :)
I am an anxious person. I feel like I make mistakes at every turn in my life. Or just get hit by a barrage of bad luck. I have been depressed and suicidal lately due to various reasons. Not even have the energy. I recently made a huge mistake though.... See more
Everybody makes mistakes, it takes courage and guts to acknowledge that and apologise. I am sure that your friend will sooner or later understand. Please don't beat yourself around over this all the time. People who are meant to stay will stay, regardless.
I want money to get ahead with my life, don't want to sell my soul for it like other people, not sure how to find work of my interest and earn well at the same time. Feels like I should start taking anti depressants again. Not able to find a therapis... See more
I am going through same sort of issues. I would love to connect and we can may be together counsel each otherâ¤ï¸
Try Manochikitsa online therapy. See a therapist there that will suit your needs.
It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and I'm sorry to hear that. It's important to remember that there is always hope and help available. Finding a job that you are interested in and pays well can be a challenging task, but it is possible. One thing you can do is to research different industries and job positions that align with your interests and skill set. You can also seek out career counseling or speak with a career coach who can help guide you in the right direction. Networking and reaching out to contacts in your desired industry can also be beneficial. It's important to prioritize your mental health and seek help when needed. If you're struggling to find a therapist who meets your needs, you can try searching for one who specializes in the specific issues you're dealing with. Additionally, you can consider online therapy options or support groups as alternative resources. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and take things one step at a time. Small changes can
From last few week I was suffering from financial problems … due to which am not be able to focus on study . I am engineering student from 2 nd year … most of the time I was depress … and now I am literally so depressed my sem exam is approach... See more
Facing financial issues is a very big problem but you as a student do not need to take care of it. Your parent will manage and if they are not able to do you can always take student loan or there are many aids given by Govt to students for study purpose . So kindly explore them
I am back on antidepressants the second time. I am contemplating if i should start them again. The side effects are too much and i dont think i am that depressed like the last time. On the other hand if i choose to not take it and by any change i c... See more
Hi, You need to consult your doctor and take professional help. You need to discuss with them about issues you are facing, and the thing with medication, and your last experience with them. This is important, because you have to make sure that your situation and medications do not negatively affect your professional and personal life. Further, there are good online courses that you can take that fastens your healing process. All in all, trust your doctor and seek support from family and friends. Good company and support from loved ones will definitely help you go through this process in a better manner.
I'm 27 nd i feel anxious. As I'm 27 there's a obvious pressure for marriage nd I'm still not ready as i belong to well settled family nd the person I love is not still settled i don't know what to do about it. Also i want to be independent before mar... See more
It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about these things, but it's important to remember that everyone has their own timeline and there's no one "right" way to live your life. It's okay if you're not ready for marriage yet, and it's okay if the person you love isn't settled yet. What matters most is that you're both happy and supporting each other's growth. As for your desire for independence, that's a great goal to have. It's important to have a sense of autonomy and control over your life. It's great that you have a passive income, and starting your own business could be a great way to achieve greater financial independence. However, it's important to also be realistic about the challenges and risks involved in starting a business. In terms of feeling dependent on your partner, it might be helpful to explore why that is and work on building your own confidence and decision-making skills. This could involve seeking out therapy or counseling to work through any underlying is
I am 19 years old. A few days back I had surgery - a minor one done with anaesthesia. But it would take 3 months for the surgery wound to fully heal. Now I am on leave to clg for a week as recommeneded by doc to take rest. Post the surgery, I have th... See more
It's ok have a surgery. You'll be fine! About college life FOMO i think you're passionate about your studies nd if you're then it's okay if you've not attended the college for a while your college mates/class mates will help you so nothing to worry about college. There are people who skip whole semester ???? so it's fine. Nd with girls there's always this marriage issues i feel you'll complete your college with flying colours nd then you'll get a good job
So few days ago i had huge argument with my friend on a pic with a friend where we are standing closely and am leaning a little bit on his side because am not getting into the frame and he saw that picture and started to blame me that I am chara... See more
I would suggest you should definitely ponder upon each word he said to you and find out the actual cause of him behaving in such a way. Ask yourself if it is valid cause or he is just insecure or trying to be dominating and controlling. Now if the person is wrong, here's what you can do: 1. Make other people to not expecting too much from you. 2. Set your limitations and don't let other roam around your personal space. 3. Try to communicate people with better emotional intelligence 4. Do what makes you feel happy and peaceful. Remember, you have all your answers, you just need to ask yourself and introspect it.
Why parents will think if their daughter is 26 years old they just want her to get married even though if she is not at all ready for that? Why cant they just have a normal, simple conversation with their kid about why she is not willing or what are ... See more
There could be many reasons why some parents may have these attitudes towards their daughter's marriage. Every family is different and there can be a variety of cultural, social, and personal factors that influence these beliefs and behaviours. Due to generational gap some parents may hold traditional or conservative values that prioritise marriage as an important milestone in a woman's life, and they may feel social pressure from their own family and friends circle to ensure their daughter is married at a certain age. Additionally, some parents may view their daughter's marriage as a way to secure her future and ensure her financial stability. However, it's important for parents to understand that their daughter's happiness and autonomy should be their top priority. It's crucial for parents to have open and honest conversations with their daughter about her feelings and goals for her future, and to respect her choices and desires. Ultimately, parents should strive to create a safe a
They won't listen to me and if tried they use hurtful words to the extent where i just want to end my life. But i myself don't know why I am still unable to do that.
Have you said all of this to them?
have you tried to have a rational conversation with them?
I did, then they started degrading me by telling that I am a useless , selfish person. Recently I lost job too so including that they scolded me that i wont get another job, nobody will recruit me. They also said that my willingness to work after marriage is a meaningless wish because the groom side don't want their daughter-in-law to work.
I always thought I will first work on myself and work hard and get a great career and then eventually find the love of my life. But I found a guy who's the sweetest and likes me alot. And I also was into him that moment so we got committed. But I gue... See more
Your first statement should have been your first priority, and becuse you skipped that I think everything else rushed in your life. And things with the right one will not make you this anxious.
I also have a huge issue of intimacy
Hey, I've been overthinking a lot from more than a year. Every little decision or situation or event.I have had a very traumatic childhood and emotionally unavailable parents. But until 15 I was good. Slowly I've noticed my self esteem has gone down ... See more
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Hi, I am actually very scared to share my feeling to anyone. Even now I am feeling afraid to tell here what I am feeling right now. But I really need help. Because my negative thoughts are going overboard and it is terrifying me much more. I want to... See more
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You have to become aware of what triggers you and then work on healing that. It's a bad feeling and not a bad life.
Yes i agreed
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Breathe. Take a deep breath. Why do you hate yourself so much? Anything in particular that triggers this emotion?
I am a unemployed post graduate. I am trying to get a job , even though i had faced many rejections in interviews i never felt discouraged but learnt from my mistakes and improving myself. I heard and also still hearing so many people point out at me and laughing on my face because i dont have a job. But the main painful thing is my parents also feel like I am wasting time by not trying to get a job but only if they know how hard i am trying to get one. Especially my mom or if I have to say step-mom , she will be good to me if everything is going fine according to her, but if she is triggered she vent out all her anger on me making me feel like a useless, unwanted, degrading person on earth and that is happening from when i am in class 4 . Nobody knows about this because she wont hit but verbally abuse me and wants me to forget all them each and every time and should be normal like nothing happened. If she wants to share any problems happening in her life she comes to me and tells m
Sometimes parents mirror their unresolved trauma on their children and it's very difficult for them to change because of their age and adamancy. The best you can do is treat them like their individual person and not to take everything personally. I am sure you are doing the best you can. It is hard to find job today with such cut throat competition. Find a way to work it out around your parents, your answer starts there.
If she wants to share any problems happening in her life she comes to me and tells me that I am her only friend. when i am little i used to feel happy that she considered me as her friend but now i felt like it just an excuse. whenever she scolds me that i am a useless person and a burden to the family i feel like what have i done to hear all these harsh things and how can i end these. sometimes i feel what it would be if my mom was still alive.
i feel the same
hopeless. everything is so terrifying.
Hey im suffering from a chronic illness since past 2 years, i was a very ambitious school kid but now life took a great turn with this illness and it feels like this is not the life i imagined for myself, dont know how to accept it.
I feel very low everyday. My neet exam never went well as expected and then i joined another job with a lot of hopes but things here are not going really well. I have contract which expects me to complete my training of four years . Have completed th... See more
I suggest you try to do something out of the box every alternate day to give you that sense of accomplishment. Try going to a trip with complete strangers and have a good time. Go on a solo trip and stay in a hostel. Try going to a coffee shop and read a book. Do one thing that scares you, you'll feel more alive.
Hey everyone!!! I really feel alone and depressed these days. I had been staying at my friend's place since 3 months and now he's lost his home so I had to move to my hostel. We're both University students. But now I'm habituated of living with him 2... See more
I have been through this. The only thing I can suggest you is that you need to find some distraction to get habitual to your friend's absence. It could range from music to movies to anime to books anything. Try new activity. It will always be hard for you if you try to keep finding happiness outside. Try to become alone but never lonely. You got this. Its a transition phase you'll get through this. Fighting.
long post alert but pls give it a try. I'm in my 20s and I'm very introvert, shy natured person. I'm a overthinker and have trust issues. it's very tough for me to get along with a person easily when it comes to relationship or friendship. It's too ... See more
Hello everyone! There is a girl I love the most. Everything was going good but she broke up with me without giving me any reason. I cried for her and destroyed my mental health for her. I started smoking and being an alcoholic. Even after two years o... See more
Hellooo..... Just had an anxiety attack..... Just calmed myself..... And this time this anxiety was due to a person ..... I found him as my brother..... But when he got into my female friend..... I felt very bad..... This was because he started trea... See more
Today, I had an accident. everything happened so fast that It took me a little time to process the same. After standing up, I fell back three times and was unconscious for some time. As I start to feel better, I tried again to stand up, only to reali... See more
I hope you are doing better! Kudos to your fighting spirit.
M just feeling confused and lonely lately..... With no friends and staying in hostel..... Just feeling like hell rn .... It's not that bad baaki time.... But av nhi jhela jaara.... Anyways in home also I feel the same..... I don't anyone's any sugg... See more
This escape behavior will cost you. Try to have genuine connections in your life, and make an effort to bring those into action.
Tbh..... Genuine connections aren't my cup of tea..... Whether it may be Friendship or family or anything...... I take it really in a next level seriousness.....like i started accepting people and situations as they are..... But still it takes bit time .....
Tbh..... Genuine connections aren't my cup of tea..... Whether it may be Friendship or family or anything...... I take it really in a next level seriousness.....like i started accepting people and situations as they are..... But still it takes bit time .....
It never comes easy; however, extremity of anything is dangerous, I hope you understand that.
I love a girl, she's my friend's bhabhi's sister. Back in 2018, I saw her for the very first time in wedding of my friend's brother, since then i've a huge crush on her. Recently last year we met again in a family function at my friend's home,she was... See more
Hi....it was time when in middle of the night when somebody come to me with any problems I was able to solve them....in short my decision power was so good and bcoz of that I feel motivated... But I feel drained you know.. Like someone or the environ... See more
I feel lost too. I feel like my life is not going anywhere, I don’t have a career, I have only two friends , that too I don’t have anyone to share my problems with, I’ve made far too many mistakes in college, didn’t make friends when I could, didn’t sit for the job placement , right after 12th, I was getting a job in a hotel itc, I refused in my want to go to a college, ans in college also, after college got over, no job. And till now, unable to do anything for myself, I am worried about my future, always anxious as to what will happen, worried that I might not have money, and also feel like I have no purpose left in life, I feel lonely too
You cannot fill from an empty cup, fill yours first. All the best, you got this! A giver needs healing too.
At first i was unable to talk wid anyone...than i struggled a lot to mingle wid everyone n watched a lot of videos n those helped me too. But now I'm stuck that being a boy I know how to talk with girls so better but I don't knw how to talk wid boys ... See more
I always stuck between choosing the right and wrong but at the end I would choose the the wrong and feel bad about my decision.
Working under pressure and anxiety can effect your rational thinking. Don’t be so stressed about taking a decision and worry about it. Relax and close your eyes and take deep breaths before taking any recession is your life , this will help you calm down and make logical and rational thinking Even after this you’re making a mistake , so maintain a diary or a note and write down your past mistakes and the correct answer to it. Then in future before taking a decision read it. This’ll help you surely
Today, the person i thought i would go an extra mile left me, for the first time in many years i cried (alot) but it wasn't like childhood cries, today i had a reason. After many such years i was not able to hold myself back, today was the day i lost... See more
Life always comes with so many ups and downs... Everyone is going through something. About an year ago, I have gone through the same phase as yours. you just need some space and time and everything will be all right. You are bigger than this situation, you just need to take the steering wheel of your life on your hand which is controlled by your emotions. Mark my words, you will get over with this very soon.
Last year on 31st Dec I failed 100kg squats and today I did 120kg for 2 reps. Now I can't control my happiness. Everyone in the gym was like bro what you did, this is crazy, etc. So now my total lift is 360kg, and by the end of this year, I hope it ... See more
Looks like you have worked so much on yourself in those days, and what's the most important thing that helped you is your faith on yourself. it's just a begining, there is so much to accomplish. All the best for your future endeavours!
A very basic method or approach in life to stay happy is to stay grounded, connected with little things in life, do some good to strangers without expecting something in return, observe beauty everywhere nd always try finding something good in peop... See more
